"Either I gave it to him or he gave it to me. When we first met (many years ago), both of us claimed to be negative. Four months after we met, I got tested and the results were negative. One month later we stopped using condoms. Then, about 18 months after that, a test came back positive, first for me and later for him.
Every two months I see my doctor, blood is drawn and new viral load and T-cell numbers follow. Currently, I am on Odefsey. Previously, I was taking Complera. Before that, Atripla.
I have had zero success using condoms. In the mid-1990s, condom use rightfully became part of the accepted formula in the effort to lessen, treat and prevent HIV infection. My personal response to the evolving situation was to give up having anal sex completely. I couldn't make condoms work and I didn't want to commit murder by ejaculation. HIV impacted my sex life in a very negative way.
PrEP, PEP and the notion of undetectable have lessened the anxiety that I feel regarding sexual activity. While hook-ups are rare, I am enjoying sex once again."
Ken, 72, undetectable. Hell's Kitchen, NY. Music and piano teacher